Grocery shopping is tough enough. Remembering everything on my shopping list… Remembering the list… Ensuring the Oreos are well hidden under the strategically placed bag of carrots…..… . Recently I was chatting with the woman behind me in line (who I’m pretty sure couldn’t spot the Oreos) and walked away with a virtual punch in the stomach I never expected.
We were discussing kids and upon learning
that I was the proud (if somewhat frazzled) mom to one little boy, with
no plans to have another little one, our conversation seemed to change
on a dime. Yes, a complete and total stranger – in my life only because
of our grocery store of choice – actually told me that she was shocked
that I wouldn’t give my kid the gift of a sibling. Really?? Knock my
Oreos, maybe, but my choice about kids??
wallowing in disbelief for far too long, I was able to regroup &
rally back, thanks to an incredibly simple, yet profound statement
shared by the brilliant Kia Robertson… “Kids are not like potato chips… you CAN have just one!” Brilliant.
it would be nice if he had a built-in playmate sometimes… or I could be
spending time breaking up scraps and dealing with sibling rivalry.
it could help him learn to share, take turns and other great life
lessons… or he could learn to be independent and self-sufficient.
it would be nice to think of him surrounded by siblings when I’m old
& grey or gone… or maybe they’d all move to opposite ends of the
world and never speak.
Life is tough enough (just like
grocery shopping!) – I wish I could understand why people feel the need
to continually question and judge other people’s choices. I don’t know
how my life would have played out with another child, two more or ten more
(except then I might be in line for my own reality show!). All I do
know is that my kid is the single most wonderful thing in my life and
its an absolute joy to be his mom (most days!). Let’s just learn to
relax… sit down… take a deep breath… have an Oreo…